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Do You Have Fellowship Or Just Meetings?

April 22, 2017


“This is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you: God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.  If we claim to have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth.  But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.”          1 John 1: 5-7

“Fellowship with one another” is vitally important and necessary for every follower of Jesus and the Body of Christ as a whole at large.  Yet, true fellowship rarely occurs when a traditional/Institutional  “church” meets.  ”Fellowship”, as used in this text, means deep, intimate relationship and social intercourse.  It speaks of extremely rich participation and total partnership with one another.

Truth be told, nearly 100% of most “church services”  allow for very little partnership or participation and what they do allow for is rarely relational or intimate.  In fact more fellowship happens when exchanging pleasantries and handshakes on the way in and out of the building than within the actual meeting times.  It is very, very sad, but the Pastor’s encouragement to “greet your neighbor” is usually the deepest and most relational as it ever gets.

The rest of the time in the “service” is normally spent sitting in rows, staring at the back of someone’s head while you listen to the Pastor’s sermon/monologue.  That my friends is NOT fellowship at all.  It is not interactive or participatory and it does nothing to build real, faithful relationships within the Body of Christ.

In authentic fellowship everyone participates and shares the deepest of things that they have on their hearts.  Real fellowship allows for the open exchange of thoughts and ideas that pertain to Jesus and all things church and life.  When we truly gather together in His name we all get to share our burdens, struggles, victories and successes with one another.  Without that type of open and intimate sharing it never really becomes fellowship and all it really ends up being is just another shallow meeting of some folks that really needed to hear from the Christ in each other, but were denied access to that due to the traditional standard way in which they meet under the headship of their Pastor rather than Christ.

True Church is all about relationship, with Christ and one another.  It is about deep friendship that goes well beyond just sharing a pew, row of chairs or a handshake.  In true fellowship everyone gets to share what is going on in their hearts.  It is about relationships that go deeper than just being mere friends or family.  Is your fellowship like that or does it lack true love and intimacy?  If we are really walking in the light WE WILL have rich fellowship like I have described here today.  It is not an option.  It is a need that all of us have in order to be fully whole, complete and mature in Christ.

Love and …..

Kirk Out !




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  1. "BK" permalink

    Well… often happens I had just posted something to our online fellowship with the following opening paragraph….”When a new brother or sister come into fellowship here I often send them a kind of intro to describe what our intent is here. There is so much more to community than Bible studies or talking in ‘spiritual language’ all the time or ‘meetings’….although all those things are certainly included! The intro includes something like “sharing our lives….the ups & downs, discussions (whether agreeing or disagreeing), a beautiful sunset, a revelation or Bible question, a precious moment to us…..etc….”. Many have come and gone because it isn’t what they were looking for….usually not enough Bible teaching or new revelation or because as we have walked through each others’ trials together they get tired of ‘the child’s play’….not realizing it isn’t child’s play, it is the reality of LIFE. But, each one must be free to pursue their own path.” I posted this BEFORE coming here to read Christopher’s blog. The same spiritual blood flows through the body……love, “BK”

    • It is amazing the way the Holy Spirit speaks and confirms the things HE reveals to us along the way. BK we are connected in both seeking and receiving portions of the Spirit of Christ each day and moment. Thanks for sharing BK.

  2. tom ball permalink

    I was thinking this same thing just this morning… the sense of real fellowship I remember as a younger person at church, and now … not so much. The church I attended was smaller, then, and there was, of course, no internet to distract hours on end. It may well be much my own responsibility my sense of intimate connection is faltering, but, with no longer having children at home there simply seems less motivation to get out and interact with others. Getting older.

    • I hear you Tom. We need to invest to get a return. It is easy to withdraw and go solo, but the truth is we NEED one another in the Body of Christ. I pray you find more interactive fellowship Tom.

      • "BK" permalink

        I join Christopher in this prayer, Tom…not just now but continuing. You have a precious portion of Spirit. Love, “BK”

      • I agree BK, Tom and his portion are precious.

  3. Sue heumann permalink

    I agree with BK and Tom…..when a child we had a strong sense of family/community…..but still not everyone got to participate… I got older the church we attended was more about being IN the right church and doing FOR God instead of him living his life thru us as he led…..sad stuff. Precious times are those where we are BEING HIS CHURCH to,and with one another.
    God knows our need and circumstances and I’m thankful he isn’t upset ….just walking w us thru it all…loving us….leading to greener pastures…..

    • Child of God, Child of God, you are free! So walk in that freedom and interact with others along the way. Thanks for sharing Sue.

  4. daryl permalink

    Having all my life “gone to church”, I have seen a lot of good and bad.I will say that many of the churches I know of encourage the fellowship of which you speak….yet it is only as something to supplement the church and it’s growth…which is not all bad,but it is certainly not intended to replace the Sunday/Wednesday service or any other program/ministry. God forbid that it should lead to people not attending or serving/participating at and for the church! So it ends up always being “with strings attached”,never edifying simply for the pure sense of edifying just because it’s the right thing to do,being who we are,simply desiring the best for others . A term I have come to hate is “pewsitters”,because of how it is used.So often I have heard that term used (implying that one is basically a do-nothing for Jesus)and I think to myself how arrogant and WRONG! How grateful some ministers should be that others would bother to take precious time out of their lives to come and listen to them. To judge others as lukewarm and call them names when they have no clue as to the Holy Spirits’ working in their life(they only know they aren’t “active” at “the church”)is wicked. Sadly that type of thinking will probably continue.I have just walked away from it. As I walk in the light as He is in the light I WILL have fellowship…God will make that happen.IF I walk in the light,I don’t really have to seek fellowship…it just comes to me.

    • Thanks for sharing daryl. I am praying for your journey outside the walls, that you would find fellowship along the way. The traditional “church” wants passive listeners. They forget we are created to be doer’s and not just hearers of the Word. Jesus desires disciples and not pewsitters for sure.

  5. Sue heumann permalink

    Amen and amen!

  6. Judy Baker permalink

    I believe we need fellowship and be able to witness to anyone about Jesus. To have courage from Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Of course we have to put knowledge in our mind for JESUS to recall it . And He does !!! I’m glad we go out to talk to people every day in all the world. Jesus leads our preaching work. We could not do it if it was not for him. Millions coming in the truth every year worldwide.
    God has blessed our work and it continues to grow

    • Judy, when we fellowship with others it builds our faith and as each one shares we together grow up into HIM who is The Head. Sharing with one another prepares us to share with unbelievers.

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