Dropping The F Bomb?
One Sunday evening a while back Caleb and I visited a housechurch in Virginia. We had an excellent time with the saints there because they made us feel right at home. They had just the right mix of humor and irreverence and they treated each other with much love and respect.
The Spirit led topic turned out to be how we treat one another in the body when we have differing opinions or just disagree. Every member contributed to the conversation and the flow of the dialogue was perfect. Of course there were times when we shared awkward silence, but when you are attempting to be real with Him and one another that is just a natural part of the ongoing exchange of ideas.
A key to being able to navigate difficult conversations together is the willingness to hear each other out without threat of judgement or condemnation. If you truly desire free and totally open fellowship then you must surrender to the art of active listening. Disagreements are fine as long as you can still bear with one another in love, even in the face of major differences.
The folks there in Virginia told us of a time when someone just dropped the F bomb in the middle of their fellowship together. They had a disagreement over some of Paul’s letters and a member strongly opposed what another had said about Paul and the F bomb was dropped. Not in a mean or disrespectful way, but in a WTF? kind of way. They loved Jesus and each other enough that they continued to press on through the moment together until they found sufficient resolution. Those involved chose not to take total offense at what was shared and that acceptance allowed them to continue the ongoing conversation until they found a place of common ground and mutual agreement.
I love my hc friends in Virginia and I was able to confirm to them that you really haven’t had relational housechurch until someone drops the F bomb or blood has been drawn. Because if you are not getting close or intimate enough for these wild things to happen, you haven’t gone deep enough in each others lives to really call it church. If you really want to be real and authentic then you will go to any length to know and love each other deeper than what the average traditional church allows. Traditional church avoids depth of relationship with HIM and one another like the plague, while relational church embraces it. Give me real and slightly vulgar on any day over fake and pristine. I need fellowship with real people with warts, blemishes and all. I desire reality, true fellowship, and not fake behavior all the time.
Kirk Out !
P.s. All the stuff in my old apartment has now been moved into our new townhouse. However, sorting and unpacking may take quite a while. I definitely pulled something in my stomach/side during the move. The new place looks great and is liveable, except for the massive pile of stuff in the dining room. As they say, “slow and steady wins the race”. Thanks to everyone who prayed for us during the big move.