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Relationship, Not Religion

September 2, 2014


Jesus said:

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.  You are my friends if you do what I command.  I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business.  Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.  You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit-fruit that will last.  Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.  This is my command: Love each other.”  John 15: 12-17

This is oh so very simple.  Jesus desires that we love Him and one another.  We were created to be in an agape and phileo love relationship with the Lord and each other.  Jesus wants to be friends with us.  We are called to be in a relationship with Him that goes deeper and is much more personal than He just being Master and us being His servants.  Christ’s example indicates that being friends is perhaps our highest calling in this life.  This relates to my last blog about making disciples.  The best and most effective way of making disciples is via friendship.  That is exactly how Jesus treated and taught His disciples.

 Friend to friend is how we reach others for the Kingdom, not teacher to student, Pastor to “layperson” or Clergy to “laity”.  Knowing these things should lead us to view everything through the lens of relationship, instead of the lens of religion, tradition or doctrine.  When we read and try to understand the bible we should do so in a relational manner.  The Spirit will lead us into all truth and I say that all truth is relational truth.  When we approach the bible in this manner we will see it as living, alive and real; instead of a book of rules, dead letter and regulations.  If you look for relationship, love, grace and freedom you will find it there.  However, if you take a non-relational approach you will just find dead religion instead of Christ.  Taking a purely academic approach will fail you also.  To understand the text you will have to use your heart more than your head.  They say most people miss God by only 18 inches…the distance between your brain and your heart.

Jesus is the King of Kings and He commands that we be in a loving relationship with Him and one another.  To make a friend you have to be a friend.  It involves laying your heart and everything else on the line.  To know Jesus is to Love Him and to love Him you must surrender everything, including your personal comfort zones.  In the process of making friends you end up making disciples.  The challenge is to love Jesus and those He places in your life every single day.  

Love and…..

Kirk Out !





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  1. 2trakmind permalink

    It occurred to me as I read this, that if all we had to guide us in life, were these few verses, the world would be changed, radically. All the wisdom in the Bible is boiled down to these words; “I have chosen you. I love you, you are my friend. Now, go love one another and you will bear much fruit.” What more could we possibly need to know about God’s will for His people?

  2. Janet permalink

    How do we speak to those who are stuck in the letter, and believe those who don’t follow the bible word for word are doomed? I do not try to argue with this person I know anymore. They do not listen and refuse to believe there is any other way. She says you know a tree by its fruit, but her fruit causes separation, causes others to be deceptive around her just to avoid the wrath. There is no sense of freedom around her.

  3. Janet, all you can do is pray for them and speak the truth in love when the Spirit leads you. There is no magic answer. For some it takes a Damascus road type of experience just like Paul, but when Jesus got a hold of Paul he went from Letter of The Law to freedom and grace in a hurry.

  4. Dyesebel barbecho permalink

    Its like we are in a good relationship with God if we are in good relationship to the people around us…god bless!!!

  5. Justified = Christ’s death for you, made holy in front of Father as perfect, by Christ it is just as if you never sinned
    Colossians 1:22New International Version (NIV)

    22 But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation—

    Then when we ask Father with a sincere desire to know Father we get the gift of new life in Spirit and truth, and God takes up residence in us and teaches us how to walk by faith, through Son’s finished work, and the message he gave to his disciple’s he gives to us
    Sanctified = walk this way:

    Matthew 10:16-20New International Version (NIV)

    16 “I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. 17 Be on your guard; you will be handed over to the local councils and be flogged in the synagogues. 18 On my account you will be brought before governors and kings as witnesses to them and to the Gentiles. 19 But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say, 20 for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.

    Who does the speaking through us in Love to all as in:

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

    4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

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