Skip to content

Do You Have Fellowship Or Just Meetings?

November 24, 2013


“This is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you: God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.  If we claim to have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth.  But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.”          1 John 1: 5-7

“Fellowship with one another” is vitally important for every follower of Jesus.  Yet, true fellowship rarely occurs when a traditional “church” meets.  ”Fellowship”, as used in this text, means deep, intimate relationship and social intercourse.  It speaks of rich participation and total partnership.

Truth be told, nearly 100% of most “church services”  allow for very little partnership or participation and what they do allow for is rarely relational or intimate.  In fact more fellowship happens when exchanging pleasantries and hand shakes on the way in and out of the building than within the actual service times.  It is very sad, but the Pastor’s encouragement to “greet your neighbor” is usually the deepest and relational as it gets.

The rest of the time in the “service” is normally spent sitting in rows, staring at the back of someone’s head while you listen to the Pastor’s monologue.  That my friends is NOT fellowship.  It is not interactive or participatory and it does nothing to build real relationships in the Body of Christ.

In authentic fellowship everyone participates and shares the deepest of things that they have on their hearts.  Real fellowship allows for the open exchange of thoughts and ideas that pertain to Jesus and all things church.  When we truly gather in His name we all get to share our burdens, struggles, victories and successes with one another.  Without that type of open and intimate sharing it never really becomes fellowship and all it really ends up being is another shallow meeting of some folks that really needed to hear from the Christ in each other, but were denied access to that due to the traditional way that they meet.

True Church is all about relationship, with HIM and one another.  It is about deep friendship that goes well beyond just sharing a pew, row of chairs or a handshake.  In true fellowship everyone gets to share what is going on in their hearts.  It is about relationships that go deeper than just being mere friends or family.  Is your fellowship like that or does it lack true love and intimacy?  If we are really walking in the light we will have rich fellowship like I have described here.  It is not an option.  It is a need that all of us have in order to be fully whole, complete and mature in Christ.

Love and …..

Kirk Out !




From → Uncategorized

  1. Chris, you wrote:
    “Fellowship with one another” is vitally important for every follower of Jesus. Yet, true fellowship rarely occurs when a traditional “church” meets. ”Fellowship”, as used in this text, means deep, intimate relationship and social intercourse. It speaks of rich participation and total partnership.

    That about says it, alright. This morning I went to a “church service” for a couple of reasons. One was to be with the Christian couple next door who invited me and see what they were into and the other was to see if anything had changed in that system and if their glowing report was by chance something that I had missed… nope! It was a nice traditional “church service,” but there was no fellowship there in the Spirit, there was no deep intimate relationships or any heart to heart intercourse between the saints, just singing dry hymns and listening to a one way sermon keyed to the coming holiday and then being dismissed.

    How are you going to keep them down on the ” I. C. farm” once they have experienced the kingdom of God here on earth? The “First Church of Biscuits and Gravy” at the Davis house might be humble, but it is REAL.


  2. Skylla Moon permalink

    BTDT. Until He showed me the danger of cavorting with religious spirits. I wish there were another word then “fellowship” – I still have baggage from my childhood with vestiges of dead, lifeless meals. However, once the Spirit is tasted with others in close proximity, nothing is ever the same.
    Still waiting on the Lord in NC,

  3. Thank you Christopher! Something I’ve seen from being out of the system for almost 18 years and being a part of a lot of home groups, is that people manage to still build walls, even when the format is free and inviting. Not just between one another, but even from Christ to be the head that everyone listens to, honors, and acquiesces to (rather than many heads).

    This came to me one day:

    If we build it, they will come.
    If He builds it, He will come.

    Even “building relationships” can be fleshly, if we go about it as some kind pattern.

    Another way of putting it is something T.Austin Sparks said 🙂

    “God never brings His house down to us, we have to be brought up to it”.

    Love 🙂

  4. Very true Pamela. The Wind of the Spirit blows where it wants to and we should never try to box or contain it, even in the guise of relationship. Knowing Him is not about building anything, but rather surrendering all things to Him as we learn to walk in Love towards Him and each other.

  5. Marjorie House permalink

    Good blog Chris.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: